So like… I’m a person that has a visceral reaction to people being called ‘it.’ I was bullied and dehumanized during my younger school years when I was younger, it was honestly awful and if anyone actually called me ‘it’ nowadays there is a strong chance I would get physical with them. The last kid who tried it with me in highschool, I ended up throwing up against the bleachers so I could make it VERY clear that it wasn’t acceptable.
AND ALL THAT SAID - if someone says that ‘it’ is their preferred pronoun, I’m still going to use it, because my trauma doesn’t negate anyone’s desire to have their humanity and identity respected. Period.
Pronouns are not there to show biological sex, and just the term ‘biological sex’ is such a dogwhistle - almost no one has had their chromosomes tested, you don’t know what another person’s chromosomes are, and you certainly shouldn’t assume their genitalia (not that it matters, because hell, it doesn’t matter I’m so tired of this talking point. exhausted)
Saying trans people just want to look unique is such a nonsequitor, and extremely focused on a western European mindset - there have been plenty of cultures throughout history that didn’t have such a hard focus on the gender binary.
If someone is uncomfortable with the pronouns of the other person, is it up to them to examine why they are uncomfortable and attempt to unlearn their biases - its such an easy thing to just call someone by their pronouns, even if that pronoun is ‘it’
Fuck man I didn’t wake up today expecting to see transphobia on my science forum.