I want to see which identifiers agree with me - but I unfollow each obs when it no longer interests me. On social media, you cannot change the behaviour or other people - but you can change how you engage with that obs. Or if you are thinking of a particular individual, you can mute them - which is a useful option - no notifications but you can still see their contributions if someone else gives you a reason to look at that obs again.
Hope that notification management is on the iNat staff’s to do list.